BY Czar Anikulapo Nonso
…I want you to think about this for a moment.
Assuming Jay-z was just a random dude on the street, With a 6 hours daily job that pays a dollar equivalent of 30,000 naira monthly…
Let’s assume he lives in a 2 bedroom apartment and drives some old pick up van. Do you think he would have met Beyoncé? With all her fame and glory?
Alright, let’s assume that by some stroke of luck he does meet her….do you think Beyoncé would have dated him or agreed to marry him?
Now, stay with me buddy…here is the hard truth…
…people are never friends with people below their level.
It sounds really harsh. But that is the bloody truth.
Even if the high-in-level person smiles at someone below him, it’s never as an equal…no matter how humble he is.
Look at the way a doctor responds to the greetings of a cleaner in his hospital. Even if they are cordial with themselves, there is always that deference from the cleaner and that superior air about the doctor.
It’s not something people do consciously. It just happens. It’s like the way you respond to greetings from someone ten years younger than you vs the way you respond to the greeting of someone 10 years older.
…everyday young ambitious people walk into the office and DMs of rich men to BEG for start up capital…
And every time they walk away, empty handed (I did this too many years ago, till I received sense from God)
And we curse these men sef, and call them stingy.
Nah, they are not stingy…they just don’t respect you.
I know you think you are smart, you have this big dreams and you believe you are special and that you will be great in life….
I feel you, and I have been there before. But here is the hard reality.
Well, this “great” people you will run to for help don’t believe in you yet. They just don’t give a dime about you. They don’t care about your dreams, they don’t believe in them…heck, they don’t even have the time to listen to you talk about the dreams in the first place.
They are not wicked. It’s how life is, amigo.
The only way you can get these people to listen to you is when you have something going on for you. To get their attention you have to show that you are making something happen, in your own little way.
That’s the only way.
You think Facebook and Mark Zuckerberg would have got investors for his company if he hadn’t started Facebook and run it till it caught “fire”?
Some years back I got invited to a no-fee-asked, exclusive seminar of just 10 or 15 persons with one of my biggest role models – The CEO of Nairabet.com, Akin Alabi. And it was because I already had an online business which was making profits. If I didn’t, he wouldn’t have looked my direction.
Fastword to this year and I have worked with and personally handled the marketing of some of the biggest names in the internet marketing community right here in Nigeria, people who a few years ago I watched from afar.
Before you go asking people for start up capital to start a fish business first buy a fridge…when people see you have something happening already, that’s only when they will hop in and be part of your dream….
…don’t wait for that uncle, start small. Do something. Start from somewhere. Keep pushing and with time you will be able to walk into the room full with your former role-modes, but this time, they would be your rivals and they would treat you as an equal.
Only then will they take you seriously. Only then….
It even boils down to getting a mate of your dreams….if a guy in an Range Rover sport and a guy trekking says hi to a very pretty girl at the same time, the girl go first answer the dude wey dey Range Rover Sport.
Good luck in your hustle.
Keep pushing, keep working. One day when you clap, they will hear the sound.